My wife once asked me if I could go back in time and talk to
the me of yesterday, what would I say? After thinking about it for some time,
this is what I would say to the bipolar me of yesterday.
Dear 18 Year Old Me:
You don’t know me, but I once walked in your shoes for many,
many miles. Like you I struggled with
feelings of anger, suicidal depression, loneliness, bitterness, and rage, so I
know how you are feeling. I know there are times when you feel alive, and
invincible, like you own the world, or at least will, one day, some day. And I
know there are also days when you could care less as to whether you live
another day, because nothing makes sense, and life seems to be nothing short of
a waste of breath. I know you fall in love easily, and are always looking for
someone to love. I know you are a passionate person and willing to lay your
life down for so many people, and that is good, to some degree. I need to warn
you, though, that giving so much of yourself away doesn’t make you a great
person as much as it makes you co-dependent. You need to understand that co-dependency
isn’t just for women with alcoholic partners willing to destroy their lives for
the sake of helping someone who will most likely never love them back. Co-dependency
belongs to anyone willing to give of themselves to the point of their own harm.
This isn't what love looks like, even if Jesus did lay down his own life for
the sake of others. His sacrifice was a calling. Yours is a desperate grab for
purpose and meaning, which you will never find by letting others use you. Stop
it now.
And while we are on the subject of bad habits, you will not
find comfort by getting drunk all the time. The answers to all your
pain-filled questions are in the bible, not in a bottle. You should be
witnessing about Jesus to white Russians, not drinking them by the gallon. Drinking
only makes the depression worse. In the same vein of thought, put down the
cigarettes before they start to kill you. Your image is not enhanced by
drinking or smoking. These are only vices that make your problems with anger
and depression worse by the day.
I want you to also know that what you are feeling can be
changed by talking to the right people, the right doctors, and getting on the
right medication. Prayerfully, seek out these people. Work with them, and let
them help you. No, God isn’t going to
take away these feelings of pain, and frustration, but the right combination of
medication and counseling will go a very long way to making you feel stable,
normal, and healthy. Yes, with the right help you can and will wake up one day
and for the first time in your life not want to kill yourself. With the
right help, life can and will hold purpose and meaning. When you do reach this
point in your life, you will find it easier to walk with God, and live out your
faith in Jesus. You will be able to become the man of God you have always
wanted to be, free from the bewilderment of why God allowed you to be the way
you are. Do know, however, that the help you will find will only be a tool for
you to use to overcome your depression and mania. While you will have the power
and ability to overcome, it will be your choice on a daily basis to use that
ability in a positive, healthy way. The mania and depression might be abated,
but your sinful human nature will still exist. Thus, you will have many choices
to make as to where you want your life to go, and Who you will ultimately follow.
I could say more, but for now I want to leave you with this
to chew on for a while. It is enough information for you to use to find your
way to a healthier and more satisfying life. I will add one thing; no matter
how you feel, the God of Heaven truly loves you. One day you will discover that
what you are living with is not as much an illness as it is a gift from God
that you will use to help others who are walking in similar shoes.
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